To those with no sense of sportsmanship (eh, sportspersonship…), there is only one object to the game– winning. The point is not to play a game of skill, where the more skillful player has a chance to win even against great odds. The point for “winners’ is winning. Only winning, which is even better if the enemy is humiliated in the loss.
To those who believe the point of every game is to beat an opponent in a zero sum war for dominance (a pretty sorry and vicious breed, if you think about it), the game itself is a distraction and any means may be used to dispose of it. Fuck playing, fuck finesse, fuck the fun that makes it a game, fuck the rules, fuck you, loser.
Years ago I got to a certain level of skill in paddleball. Paddleball is played on handball courts all over New York City. The ball is a hard rubber “hand ball” that guys pound with their palms, and the paddle is made of wood, saving a lot of wear and tear on the hand. I was a good player, never a great one. I had many excellent games over the years, some against much more skillful players who nonetheless made it a game with me as they beat me handily.
I appreciated the sportsmanship of these players, they were sympathetic to my fate, to a small extent, and pushed me to the limits of my game at the same time, which was very sporting, since they could have easily disposed of me without letting me touch the ball. The thrill of paddleball is the volley, the quick twitch back and forth, the strategy, the sound of the ball sucking against the wall, the dash, the lunge, the return, the backhand. Or as I learned one day from a much better opponent who took a moment to point it out to me, switching hands extends your reach by a good margin, allows you to return shots you couldn’t reach with a backhand. Excellent advice.
Some play a game for love of the game, others use it as a means to prevail, to dominate someone and feel superior. I once played a guy who had a fast, precise, killer serve. In my experience with the serve, about nine or ten tries, it was unhittable. His first serve was that one, his next, identical, 2-0. I didn’t come close to hitting the third. The fourth flew past my reach and reflexes again. He continued serving his unreturnable, killer serve and took a 5-0 lead. I may have had a a few poinst during my serve, but when he got the serve back it was that same killer serve.
After his eighth or ninth unreturnable serve I said to him, with clear bitterness “obviously I can’t return this serve. Do you want to show me your fancy fucking serve all day or do you want to have a game?” He responded mockingly, telling me he’d give me an easier one since “you can’t handle this one.” I told him to serve the ball, and I was very motivated to beat his ass good.
Without his trick serve, I pulled even with him — he did not have much skill volleying, that serve was pretty much his whole game. As I said, volleying is the whole point of this marvelous game. It was soon clear to both of us that if he hadn’t spotted himself a nine point early lead, I’d have beaten him easily.
When he got the serve back it was those killers all the way and he won the game. Afterwards I learned that he was in law school. This was decades before I found myself in law school. I said to him “that explains it, then, they’re instilling the idea that winning is the only thing and that the actual game is for suckers.” He had some smarmy remark I don’t recall and it is also worth noting that he begged off of our rematch.
Bullying behavior is often this way, motivated by fear of a fair game. Play the game, let’s see how it turns out.