Narcissistic abuse is a term I had to learn not long ago, after I discovered that two of my longtime closest friends, a husband and wife team, flew into a united, endless, implacable rage when they felt “defied” by my attempt to negotiate about something they wanted us all to do. Perceived defiance is an intolerably painful injury to someone, irreparably damaged by earlier trauma, who can never be wrong. It challenges them in a way that infuriates them, plunges them into an unbearable childish rage that makes them violent and irrational.
So they raise their voice, they go silent, they glare, they change what happened, reverse cause and effect, forget details that show them partially at fault, they blame, they threaten, they lie, inventing contradictory reasons that show they are completely in the right. They will blame you for the entire, increasingly ugly conflict because it is 100% your fault for making them feel bad about themselves by defying their will. Since they can’t be even a little bit wrong, you have to be completely wrong, and if you won’t admit your fault, and take all blame, then you are the enemy. Here’s a little snapshot of this type:
We all have a breaking point for tolerating this kind of insane, abusive treatment. We can control our reactions, try to act with maturity, understand we are dealing with damaged people incapable of doing better, but at some point, provoked sharply enough, if we don’t get away in time, most of us will eventually roll our eyes or let a “shut the fuck up” slip out. In this moment, we become the aggressor, and have proved their point that we are the violent, enraged person, not them. The video of us snarling “shut the fuck up already” will be played to everyone over and over as proof of our abusiveness. This reaction is the desired outcome of narcissistic abuse, it proves they were right to treat us as a despicable, implacable enemy.
Look at this pile of shit, Lyin’ Ted, an intelligent, educated, morally bankrupt, Trump-smeared toady, making the case that Zelensky standing up for his country during a coordinated attack from his putative allies by stating the truth, while being angrily cut off and challenged by Trump, Vance and company, had “abused” and disrespected the Orange Pussy Grabber in Chief. Perfect snapshot of narcissistic abuse, on Ted’s and JD’s parts, as well as on their master’s, Putin’s BFF, part. Lyin’ Ted claims Trump was 100% correct to be infuriated by Zelensky trying to get a word in, Zelensky impertinently correcting a couple of Trump’s more outrageous lies. Shades of Bagpiper Bill Barr, identifying with Trump’s completely understandable “righteous anger” after the Mueller Report came out.
One of the hallmarks of narcissistic abuse is its utter irrationality. These morally paralyzed, reflexively childish dirty fighters engage in warfare to the death based entirely on their aggrieved will. They almost always need to lie, because “proving” their case is impossible, since their claims fly in the face of what people actually witnessed. If you can’t be wrong, and you are wrong, you will fight to the death, anybody, everybody. It is the nature of these stinking creatures. They can do nothing else.
Zelensky had a catastrophic meltdown in the Oval Office, according to MAGA. Note that this “meltdown” (something impossible to see in real time, except to the faithful, since there was no actual “meltdown”) gave Trump every right to say this, after becoming righteously, justifiably “infuriated”, according to Lyin’ Ted:
“Putin went through a hell of a lot with me. He went through a phony witch hunt where they used him and Russia… Russia, Russia, Russia—you ever hear of that deal?—that was a phony Hunter Biden, Joe Biden, scam. Hillary Clinton, shifty Adam Schiff, it was a Democrat scam. And he had to go through that. And he did go through it, and we didn’t end up in a war. And he went through it. He was accused of all that stuff. He had nothing to do with it. It came out of Hunter Biden’s bathroom.”
All perfectly reasonable, if you’re an insane psychopath, I suppose. Of course it was all Hunter Fucking Biden’s fault, of course it was, sir, the fault of his disgusting bathroom with all those stolen classified documents in it (spoken with those proverbial tears of sincerity running down my face, sir). Also, I note your great restraint, sir, in not including Rosie O’Donnell, Lawrence O’Donnell, Mitch McConnell, Liz Cheney, the AP, PBS, NPR, Adam Kinsinger, Birdbrain Nikki Haley or any of your other sick, dangerous enemies, in your righteously infuriated closing statement, right before you kicked Zelensky out of the White House, as the greatest diplomats do when engaged in delicate negotiations.
By the way, Little Marco, who signed off on the three volume Senate Committee report detailing over 140 acts of coordination between the 2016 Trump campaign and Putin, including the sharing of sensitive polling data between Paul Manafort and a Russian agent named Konstantin Kilimnik, was never smaller or more humiliated and compromised than sitting passively near his boss, as Secretary of State, while an enraged Trump righteously snarled “Russia, Russia, Russia…” as he betrayed our ally and shared the true pain he’d gone through with his comrade/business partner/benefactor/blackmailer, Vladimir, at the hands of their mutual enemies, the nefarious agents of world democracy.
God bless these United Shayyysssshhh…



